The ups and Downs of relationship...
In our modern world, we often place high expectations on our partners. We desire them to be our best friend, trusted confidant, skilled homemaker, exceptional parent, source of excitement, passionate lover, and a reliable presence in our lives. While these roles hold significance, it's important to acknowledge that both partners are human and will inevitably fall short of these ideals from time to time. Unfulfilled expectations can lead to frustration, dissatisfaction, and emotional distance.
In couples therapy, we embark on a transformative journey to explore the emotional baggage that contributes to intense arguments or icy distance. This process allows for a deeper understanding and empathy towards our partners, as well as personal growth and self-awareness. Rather than solely relying on our partner to fulfill every need, we learn to nurture the relationship as a safe haven—a space where our inherent needs are understood, validated, and supported. As a result, we create a relationship with less anxiety, resentment, and unnecessary tension.
My specialization lies in assisting couples in rekindling and strengthening their bond. Whether you're facing ongoing conflicts, the aftermath of infidelity, communication challenges, or the everyday stressors that cause a strain on your relationship, struggling partnerships can make daily life more challenging. However, by supporting one another, we create a foundation of relaxation, confidence, and security, enabling us to face life's ups and downs as a united front. And who wouldn't desire the strength and resilience that comes from that type of partnership?
Modalities that I use:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is considered one of the gold standards for couples counseling. EFT draws from systems theory, interpersonal psychotherapy, and attachment research to develop an integrated framework for addressing relationship issues.
It acknowledges that each partner's personal history shapes their unique relationship style. When two styles intersect, there can be harmonious moments, off-key interactions, and outright clashes. EFT aims to increase awareness of these styles, identify negative dynamics, and foster appreciation, connection, trust, and security within the relationship.
The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) share common ground in their understanding of individuals and relationships. PACT builds upon the attachment perspective, acknowledging that our primary relationships can activate profound attachment needs.
When these needs go unfulfilled, often unconsciously, we may perceive our partner as a threat instead of a source of comfort and love. This response originates in areas of the brain that operate independently of conscious thought, which is why even a sideways glare or tone of voice can trigger intense reactions. Both PACT and EFT adopt an "in-the-moment" therapeutic approach, focusing on capturing emotions as they arise and fostering understanding and new patterns of interaction. True change can only occur when we experience something different from our usual dynamics.
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